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Jul 19 2006, 1:25 PM EDT
im 17 years old and had unprotected sex and my boyfriend came inside me. it been 2 weeks now and im goin on holiday in a week which means by the time i come back if i am pregnant ill be nearly 2 months gone. i dont know what to do because if i am i dont know if i could have an abortion as i love kids but my family are strict and would dis own me for sure. what do i do?
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1. RE: plz help
Jul 19 2006, 2:07 PM EDT
At this point is waiting it out and see if you are pregnant. the other thing I'm going to suggest that may be hard to do if your parents are abusive is to tell the parent your closest to what is happening. I know they are strict but many parents are strict to protect you and because they want what is best. If they are not abusive physically, or mentally and they show you that they love you then talk to closet one that way you guys can plan out. If they are abusive get an adult you can trust. Now on the hardest topic abortion. That's a tough one, I don't have the answer for you it is very personal. My advice is go with you believe in deep in your heart. You can't full yourself. If you think this is going to devistate your chances of getting into college and that's more important to you then you know what you have to do. If you think that emotionally it would devistate you to have an abortion and that you'll end up having a child a few months later to compenstate for the loss of the aborted child, then don't have the abortion. So before speaking with you parents find out what you really want and work through it as a family. Remeber you'll need an adult support through what ever decision you decide. Good luck. I'll be praying for you.
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Jul 19 2006, 3:23 PM EDT
As A Person who had an abortion over 7 years ago I always recommend to NEVER have one . To this day I have tremendous guilt and crying jags. There are better options , please look into them all . Unfortuneatly we all make decisions that affect us negatively , and cause people to be disappointed in us. Remember that peoples capacity to forgive you is tremendous , but our capacity to forgive ourselves is limited
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3. RE: plz help
Jul 19 2006, 3:58 PM EDT
hey im 18 yrs old and 8 months prg im in mild stage of labour right now if it was my choice im not with the father of the baby he wanted me to abort n i said no id never abort thats killing how would u feel if thats wut ur folks wanted to do to u ?
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Jul 19 2006, 5:39 PM EDT
Wow, you are in a situation. You can take your preg test on the day you are due to have your period. Technically it's been two weeks so you could test +. Or you can wait. Being an RN and having a very close family member have an abortion I can say that you don't want to do that. My heart goes out to you. Society has used abortion as a way to escape poor decisions. We make decisions that at the time may seem really bad after results like you have but let me just say. All things work out for good. My mom was the one who had the abortion before I was born. She was 17. She is now 41 and still has extreme guilt. She has let that control her life. She has lost faith in her self and in GOd. I don't know how you are with God but he will always forgive you if you ask even if your family doesn't but your family most likely will too. Everything happens for a reason. Don't blame anything on GOd though okay, he gave us "free will" so we could live "free". With that comes really hard lessons sometimes. Having a child does not mean that your life is ruined. I have a 3.5 year old daughter named Trinity. She was definitely not planned. Oh by the way she was born 2 weeks before finals and I completed 4 years of nursing school too. If I wouldn't of had her I would be in a completely different life right now. Back to my mom. One time out of anger she told me that she wished she had aborted me too. That was very hurtful but then I think, well she didn't because God had a plan. Now I am changing 100's of lives everyday in a busy emergency room. Sorry about all the God advice but it sounds like you need some love and support. If your curious find some one to talk to about the everlasting comfort and love from the lord. There are plenty of things out there to help you get through the challenges of pregnancy and motherhood. I agree with the person on telling some one you trust. In the end all is your decision but has to be one you are willing to live with for the rest of your life.
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Jul 19 2006, 5:44 PM EDT
girl i am 15 and my birthday isnt until september and i just figured out i was pregnant and i dont believe in abortion but my family would probaly disown me also. i know how you feel.
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6. RE: plz help
Jul 19 2006, 6:38 PM EDT
"girl i am 15 and my birthday isnt until september and i just figured out i was pregnant and i dont believe in abortion but my family would probaly disown me also. i know how you feel."i started to have unprotected sex at the age of 18 and as a result of the lust and pleasure that went along with it...there came pregnancy. i was COMPLETELY shocked, i started to panic n cry because the 1st thang i thought was,"what am i going to tell me popz"? he's a strict one too,i mean, he blew up at me when i forgot to wash a spoon, so i couldnt even imagine how he was gonna take it when i told him. well, the first person i told was tha father and he said it wasnt his n left me. i called my mom (who isnt involved in my life) because she really didnt care, it was actually fine with her. one day when i was filling out a check for my popz, i all of a sudden burst into tears and just told him, and I'll never forget the look he gave me and what he told me. he said he was dissapointed in me and why do i hurt him like that. 3 days after i told him, i had the abortion and it was the most painful experience i wouldnt like to feel again. you would think after the pain n tears that id learn from it...well, here i am at 19 faced with the same prediciment, im pregnant again, and this time, i dont know what to do because i said i wouldnt hurt my dad again like that, and i did. any advice for that? =*( Do you find this valuable? |
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Jul 24 2006, 2:51 PM EDT
"i started to have unprotected sex at the age of 18 and as a result of the lust and pleasure that went along with it...there came pregnancy. i was COMPLETELY shocked, i started to panic n cry because the 1st thang i thought was,"what am i going to tell me popz"? he's a strict one too,i mean, he blew up at me when i forgot to wash a spoon, so i couldnt even imagine how he was gonna take it when i told him. well, the first person i told was tha father and he said it wasnt his n left me. i called my mom (who isnt involved in my life) because she really didnt care, it was actually fine with her. one day when i was filling out a check for my popz, i all of a sudden burst into tears and just told him, and I'll never forget the look he gave me and what he told me. he said he was dissapointed in me and why do i hurt him like that. 3 days after i told him, i had the abortion and it was the most painful experience i wouldnt like to feel again. you would think after the pain n tears that id learn from it...well, here i am at 19 faced with the same prediciment, im pregnant again, and this time, i dont know what to do because i said i wouldnt hurt my dad again like that, and i did. any advice for that? =*("Hey, it's not your problem that your dad has an anger problem. Don't let your dad affect such a decision like that. You are a grown woman...an adult. You can't hide under your dad's shadow forever. I don't mean to be harsh but you can't just keep having abortions the rest of your life. You need to grow up and take responsibility. Some day your dad will probably feel realy bad for what he already has caused you to do. You can NEVER take back an abortion. It's not just the physical pain but the Emotion pain for the rest of your life that you have to deal with. You already had one, make the right decision and be a wonderful mother knowing that you saved that baby and are a mother. Don't get me wrong, motherhood is not easy but killing a baby is not the way. The abortion staff try and say that the fetus is not really alive. The heart starts beating at like 5-6weeks...think about it. Do you find this valuable? |